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Originally Posted by Lychee  I've been trying to relate to people on a level higher than the ego (which is what satisfies me most anyway - getting to the person's soul) but how do you go about doing so? I try to engage in conversation which is most comfortable to the other person to establish common ground with them, while trying to gently ask them contemplative questions that would open them up to me about deeper issues in their life so we can form a more intimate bond. |
I've tried something like this myself, and found that it just doesn't work. I've never successfully expanded a conversation beyond the banal to anything of meaning with any new acquaintance. My only positive experiences are with people I've known for years.
When you start asking questions which really probe deep, I find people recoil. Not in the sense that they find your questions inappropriate, but almost like they would never put themselves in a position to question themselves that deeply, and so just can't really deal with it.
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Originally Posted by Lychee So helgi, you've decided to released your attachment and expectations of other people and situations. You're going to act how you want to act and not worry about acceptance or rejection. Do you sometimes worry that people operating at different level may betray your trust? In a way, aren't you trusting them by being so open and unattached? |
That's my issue too. A complete surrender of the ego would bring about a state of such uncaring, but I'm not there yet. I am worried about what people think, not because I worry over lost opinion, but simply because people have a hold over your life and where it can go. We are forever trapped, playing our roles, exhausting as they may be.
Oh...The introverts dilemma...