Well, just like boys are taught that it's not okay to cry, girls are often taught that it's not okay to be outrightly angry. Men don't get more angry or have worse tempers than women, I'm pretty sure, but like women are more comfortable publicly getting teary, men are just more comfortable blustering out their anger because we've been socialized to believe it's unladylike or bitchy or destructive -- in any case, BAD. Women feel anger just as much as men, but you might not recognize it as readily because it might not show up the same way it does in the men around you. It's there, though.
As I see men being taught to be more comfortable with the authenticity of their feelings, including the weepy ones, I am also glad to see that girls are more and more accepting of their mad ones so that they can be expressed appropriately and constructively, instead of being buried and erosive.
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