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Originally Posted by Scott H Young  I'm curious as to what you disagree with. Not trying to argue, just interested at where I my observations may differ with someon elses. |
Nothing major or contrary, or I would have put it down immediately. They're finer details, but since you ask, I went back over it with a fine-tooth comb and this is what popped out...
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Originally Posted by Scott H Young For those of you who are in the (what I’ve observed as temporary) feeling of romance and attraction, congratulations. That is an experience that is small and powerful but generally doesn’t last. Like the feeling people get at the birth of their first child “falling in love” is beautiful but it is just another brief phase of life. |
Romance and attraction are not universally temporary. I have indeed seen lifelong romances between husband and wife. But they're the exception, not the rule, as you suggest. I would agree with any advice that suggests romance and attraction
are universally temporary, if only to help persuade people not to seek them so stubbornly, but facts are facts.
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Originally Posted by Scott H Young How can you possibly give someone what they need (attraction, emotional connection, support) when you are obsessively focused on what you need? |
Some people have a very strong need to give. This creates a different set of problems, but as you say, relationships are no silver bullet. Some of the relationships I have seen in which this is the case are actually quite painful to watch.
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Originally Posted by Scott H Young Life is about growth, not destination. |
This is a questionable assertion, because roads and destinations are interdependent. Cancer, for example, is a growth with no destination and thus deadly, because it is blind and reckless. But the wrong destination is potentially worse than no destination at all. This applies in relationships as well as to life in general.
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Originally Posted by Scott H Young it is the improvement that will make you happier not reaching some arbitrary point. |
I am not sure whether I agree or disagree with this statement. It is a very interesting one, though, and worth questioning.