Originally Posted by ar81
What are you try to escape from?
What situations make you feel you are not in control of your life?
I haven't thought of these questions for so long, I don't know where to begin. I won't analyze it too much, better just to say what comes up first right?
Failure in making a future. I don't want to choose the wrong person or the wrong job or the wrong place to live. But instead I have let all of these things happen to me. Like I want to be perfect but instead of perfection I have achieved avoidance of failure by not participating in my own life.
I'm avoiding effort for fear it will be directed in an unsuccessful manner.
So that's it. Need to set goals and take small steps to be more in control of my life.
A post earlier said I should make some affirmative statements about who I am and who I want to be. Make them concrete and relevant to my life.
Ok, let's try just 3 simple one's.
1) I am physically healthy (and lean) and want to maintain my appearance and share my time with those who also revere a healthy lifestyle.
2) I want to be more financially independent than I am today by the end of the year. I have good business ideas and have the ability to network with proactive people. I can be a financial resource to those I do business with, rather than a liability as I have been in the past.
3)I want to make peace with my family and my lovers whom I have a deep love and respect for. I need to learn to be more positive and trusting of their good intentions and more patient when I feel deep anger and resentment towards their ideas.
It's a start. Will try to flesh this out over time. Thanks for reading!
Actually, I just looked back at the original quote and I have not even answered the question. I really need to think more clearly. I will post this as a reminder of my lack of focus.