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Originally Posted by sheffy4  i agree with a previous poster in that I find "natural" looking men attractive, probably because, like her, I feel like I am a "natural" girl who prefers not to wear makeup and wears comfortable clothing.
I would also like to say that I am attracted to physical features on a man that give me hints into who he is. For instance, I find long/shaggy hair attractive because I associate that with someone who is openminded, sexually confident, and fun. Same with a couple piercings. But on the other hand, too many piercings or tattoos remind me of other people I have known with psychological issues and drug dependencies, so I normally don't find that attractive. Also, I like a guy who is physically active and can go on hikes and play sports with me, so if he is 300 lbs I probably won't be attracted because I will assume he isn't athletic.
I like a guy who dresses in clothes that fit, not baggy pants (which makes me think he is immature and kind of idiodic), and not super tight clothes because that also looks immature to me, or tells me that he is really into his own looks, maybe a player. But if his clothes fit, and they are in decent condition, I feel like he takes care of himself, and therefore has the ability to have a healthy relationship with someone else. If you can't even take care of yourself enough to look clean and decent when you go out in public, then I begin to wonder much worse it is in private.
I guess I read a lot into little things, but it's fun to try to understand why I am attracted to certain appearances. |
In my experience something can happen with women (and men) where a good or bad experience can influence the attraction switches that operate below the realms of consciousness.
For example, you will have a girl who doesn't really like black guys but meets one and it "just happens" and its like totally amazing. So she associates many good emotions to black guys, so thats pretty much all she dates.
Or a guy who dates a tall blonde woman and she treats him like trash, so he doesn't really find them all so attractive in the future, he likes more natural less-good looking girls.
Someone with good energy can overcome those switches, but there always needs to be that first time, and sometimes those switches don't come from a real experience, it can like something on tv. But, I must say if you fall in-line with that mental image of that ideal guy type thing attraction can be intense!