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Originally Posted by placebo  If you can choose, would you rather be alone for a very long time but develop yourself in a person you want to be or would you rather have one person for whole life who loves you even if you're shallow? |
I don't think it has to be either/or. The only problem I can see is if the person you're with wants you to remain the way you are. I had this happen with former friends -- I had to simply let go of them because they wanted me to remain like them and I wanted to grow and live a different kind of life. But this happened only because I got interested in PD many years after I became friends with these people. If you get into a relationship when you're already into PD then your SO should be aware of it (and if they're not you need to make sure they are!) and be accepting of it off the bat, even if they themselves aren't interested in PD. Other than that though, unless you're only interested in PD to become a more attractive mate (thus dropping it once you get into a relationship), then there's no reason you wouldn't continue with PD even if you get into a relationship.