If she really doesn't want to leave you, she'll back down if you start agreeing with her and let her push you away. This will help you break the pattern.
If you draw closer to her when she tries to push you away, you're rewarding her for running this pattern. She'll keep running it indefinitely because you're reinforcing it. Even worse would be if you reward her sometimes but not others, since then you're using a variable reinforcement scheme, which is even more powerful than a constant reward scheme.
The way to help break her of this pattern is to stop rewarding it altogether. Whenever she tries to push you away, pull even further away from her. Actually get up and walk away. Show her that her attempts to disconnect won't be rewarded with supplication on your part. If she really wants to stay connected with you, she'll soon learn not to run this pattern. Wtihdraw the reward and you'll de-condition the pattern.
You can even tell her you're doing this, letting her know that the best way to connect with you is to draw closer to you, not to pull away and make you chase her. If she does this to even a small degree, reward her for it by connecting with her to reinforce this more empowering pattern.
This may seem counterintuitive in some ways, but try to recognize that if you give her more attention for running her destructive patterns, you're actively reinforcing those patterns. She'll keep running the same patterns as long as you keep rewarding them, regardless of how deeply you discuss this problem to try to raise her awareness.
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