In general Fullcrum is right, but if you want to do something about your bodylanguage:
I think the key to good bodylanguage is to be relaxed and respond two the natural impulses to move that you have.
Moving while you speak is natural.
When people become tense their bodylanguage reflects that.
I think you should look inside yourself and react to the impulse to move that your brain gives you.
Look inside yourself. Where do you feel your hand should be? Put it there.
Let your gestures flow naturally.
I made my bodylanguage a lot more open with that method in the last months.
Last week I gestured so openly that I hit something off the table (I'm normally more of an introvert).
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Instead, I'm trying to keep my hands relaxed by my sides,
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Relaxing is the opposite of trying.
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The best body language is to smile
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A lot of people are able to destinguish most peoples fake smiles from genuine smiles.
I don't think faking is the way to go in life.
Live your true core and connect your feelings to your gestures is a higher payoff than trying to control 50+ face muscles to fake a genuine smile.
There also a thing that you can do at home. Some people are simply tense and ungrounded on default.
Doing meditation where you stand and have your hands in a fixed position in front of your is a nice way to become grounded.
Live Stress-Free ~ Naturally!: Standing Meditation is a good link that explain that kind of meditation.
If you do that for some time you don't have any problem holding your hands during gesturing in any position you want while being grounded.