Interesting advice. I think you're at least partially right.
I think it's a little more complex though -- she doesn't want to leave me. She's afraid I'm going to leave her, because of baggage in her past. The script since her teen years has to push people away before they can push her away.
Basically, way deep down, she thinks I'm too good to be true and/or too good for her (not true, she's mind-blowing amazing in most ways, just not this way), so when she gets in a dark mood she falls back on trying to alienate me before I have the chance to reject her.
I honestly don't know what would happen if I tried to let her run with that. I'm afraid of the outcome, but you are right that I am enabling the response.
I'll think about it, thanks a lot.
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