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Originally Posted by Spartan  Matt there are women who have shortcomings in this department too, I don't see why it is a one-sided game?
In the future I believe psychology will progress to a stage where mental illnesses such as depression and social anxiety are properly understood. Because right now people can only make guesses about them. I also believe that not all women have social confidence as their number one priority in a man (girls correct me if I'm wrong). This belief you propagate only makes my anxiety come back, I don't know why I started this conversation to be honest, I knew it wouldn't end well. |
Attraction is actually a much different process for men and women.
Don't think of social anxiety as a mental illness.
The way I explain it to guys is that its like going to the gym and doing bench press. Everybody can bench press something. It might be 5kg, or it might 50kg, and with some regular workouts, you can improve it.
Same with handling social pressure. Some guys freak out at meeting some new people for the first time, and some guys can walk up to some girl on the dance floor at a nightclub and starting dancing away without talking. The key is to slowly improve it, and be happy with all your success, each step of the way.
People can argue with me all they like about what is attractive, and how all women are different, and what works, etc etc, but I guess I need to know the facts because I get paid to demonstrate it on demand.