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Razvan · 09-03-2008, 09:20 AM

Hi ProjectX,

I've read your story here and I think that there are some things you can do to turn your life around. I hope this helps you. Here it goes:

1. Never, ever, ever give up! No matter what difficulties you come across, never give up! Difficulties and problems have at least one solution if not more. They are here for the sole reason to help you find a way out for yourself, to make you think and make you use your mind to find solutions. Any time you have a problem don't say: "Why is this happening to me? This is awful!" instead say "What can I learn from this opportunity? How can I turn this problem into something good for me?" Don't ask "Why?" ask "How?" It's a huge difference for you life.

2. Have a talk with your uncle and aunt and tell them what you really want to do. Tell them that you love them and really appreciate the help they are giving you. Tell them that you hate the fact that you are disappointing them (maybe they are not so disappointed as you think

Before talking to them, write down the main points that you want to discuss with them and possible responses from them. This will help you to be able to react to what they may say and make a compelling case for yourself. Also, write down what goals you have for this talk. What do you want to get out of this discussion? Maybe you want them to know that you love them, to find a way that they could help you in following your dreams (ask them: when you were my age, did you have a dream? Did you want to do something that you really enjoyed doing? find out why did they do it or why did they didn't do it after all and find ways to make they emphasize with you and your dreams).

3. Start looking for a job. Maybe you could look for a job on the internet. A job that requires only a computer and internet connection maybe. Think about it. Start a blog about you passion. Put some google adsense ads and other ads and start making some money. Think of ways to make money so that you can support yourself in Canada. Stop complaining and searching for excuses. Start looking for a way out. Ask yourself a lot of questions and write down the answers. You have to be responsable and act so that your dreams may become reality.

4. Read about people that have done what you are trying to do. Talk to them if possible and ask for their help. Most of them will help you.

5. Find ways to motivate yourself. We all need motivation every single day.
Put up a board on one of your walls and put some images with money there so that you are reminded that you have to make money and you will start finding solutions to that. Also write besides the money picture, the exact amount you need and want to make. If you can't put up a board, put up a background on your computer, write it down on a piece of paper and look at it daily. Just do it. It will work. It worked for millions of people, and most of them where in situations far worst that you are in. And it still worked.

Read this page to get motivated RazvanDobre.com Blog: motivation

6. Start reading more and more about what you are interested in. Read everything there is about that. Talk to people that are also interested about that and post some goals that you want to achieve in this area. Things like: I want to work for such a company and how can I do that?

7. Realize that if you want to thank your uncle and aunt for the help they gave you, you have to take responsibility over your entire life. No one will come to the rescue. You are your own master. No one can do it for you. Start setting goals in every area of your life. Stop doing things that make you lose time and aren't giving you something in return. Commit yourself on doing only the things that are bringing you closer to your goals and dreams.

I hope this helps you and that you get to work to change your life around!

I embrace you,
Razvan Dobre

You can contact me at ask-razvan@razvandobre.com for more help. I'm always glad to help!

09-03-2008, 09:20 AM	#15 (permalink)
Razvan Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Romania Posts: 42	Don't give up, ProjectX! Never give up! Hi ProjectX, I've read your story here and I think that there are some things you can do to turn your life around. I hope this helps you. Here it goes: 1. Never, ever, ever give up! No matter what difficulties you come across, never give up! Difficulties and problems have at least one solution if not more. They are here for the sole reason to help you find a way out for yourself, to make you think and make you use your mind to find solutions. Any time you have a problem don't say: "Why is this happening to me? This is awful!" instead say "What can I learn from this opportunity? How can I turn this problem into something good for me?" Don't ask "Why?" ask "How?" It's a huge difference for you life. 2. Have a talk with your uncle and aunt and tell them what you really want to do. Tell them that you love them and really appreciate the help they are giving you. Tell them that you hate the fact that you are disappointing them (maybe they are not so disappointed as you think Before talking to them, write down the main points that you want to discuss with them and possible responses from them. This will help you to be able to react to what they may say and make a compelling case for yourself. Also, write down what goals you have for this talk. What do you want to get out of this discussion? Maybe you want them to know that you love them, to find a way that they could help you in following your dreams (ask them: when you were my age, did you have a dream? Did you want to do something that you really enjoyed doing? find out why did they do it or why did they didn't do it after all and find ways to make they emphasize with you and your dreams). 3. Start looking for a job. Maybe you could look for a job on the internet. A job that requires only a computer and internet connection maybe. Think about it. Start a blog about you passion. Put some google adsense ads and other ads and start making some money. Think of ways to make money so that you can support yourself in Canada. Stop complaining and searching for excuses. Start looking for a way out. Ask yourself a lot of questions and write down the answers. You have to be responsable and act so that your dreams may become reality. 4. Read about people that have done what you are trying to do. Talk to them if possible and ask for their help. Most of them will help you. 5. Find ways to motivate yourself. We all need motivation every single day. Put up a board on one of your walls and put some images with money there so that you are reminded that you have to make money and you will start finding solutions to that. Also write besides the money picture, the exact amount you need and want to make. If you can't put up a board, put up a background on your computer, write it down on a piece of paper and look at it daily. Just do it. It will work. It worked for millions of people, and most of them where in situations far worst that you are in. And it still worked. Read this page to get motivated RazvanDobre.com Blog: motivation 6. Start reading more and more about what you are interested in. Read everything there is about that. Talk to people that are also interested about that and post some goals that you want to achieve in this area. Things like: I want to work for such a company and how can I do that? 7. Realize that if you want to thank your uncle and aunt for the help they gave you, you have to take responsibility over your entire life. No one will come to the rescue. You are your own master. No one can do it for you. Start setting goals in every area of your life. Stop doing things that make you lose time and aren't giving you something in return. Commit yourself on doing only the things that are bringing you closer to your goals and dreams. I hope this helps you and that you get to work to change your life around! I embrace you, Razvan Dobre You can contact me at ask-razvan@razvandobre.com for more help. I'm always glad to help!