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Originally Posted by CoolStuff  I'm a kid living at home with my parents. They have always been overprotective. My mom spoils me. Its not that bad, and at least I recognize it, but how do I develop independence? |
By not being dependent on them. Accepting what your mother gives you and being dependent on it are two very different things. Don't feel guilty just because your mother wants to pamper you. I occasionally get things from my folks, and I'm graduated from college. I don't ask them for it, but I'm not going to turn down free stuff. Your mom
wants to pamper you. In a way, you are the one that is doing her a favor.
Just because you're being spoiled doesn't mean that you can't do things for yourself, it just means that you don't have to. Being given money doesn't preclude you going out and earning a bit yourself. I think that's what you need most, is the confidence that if the pampering stopped, you'd be able to take care of yourself. Well, then do it. Do things to build your character. Join a club you want to join. Get a job. Build something cool. I dunno, do something that you want to do to advance yourself. You can never be so pampered as to make you unable to do something for yourself.
Overprotective, though, that may be different. If they are restricting your life to a degree that you are unwilling to accept in exchange for being spoiled, that is where you must take action. What do you mean by "overprotective"? Like, you can't stay out after midnight protective? Or you can't leave the house without a bicycle helmet protective? If you feel that their restrictions are preventing you from improving yourself, then confront them in a non-aggressive communicative fashion. But if they're just preventing you from getting bombed with your friends and parking the car in a telephone pole, then maybe they're just being regularly protective.