 Problems with my father
Sooner or later i had to post this. I am asking for help with for my father.
Just now i had a discussion with him regarding his abuses with his own family, and it appears that i got him to try to change, im not really convinced since he allways twists things so that the only thing he has to do is apologize and not put the effort in changing his personality, but with the help of god he will change.
So, since me or my family dont know how to help him, i wanted to ask for guidance. Im sure that he has to do most of the work, meditating about his own behaviour and his inner problems, nobody else can do that for him, but maybe a little guidance will help him in his journey.
His problems where allways the same, he has cronic anger, he is angry and he doesnt even know why, he abused his children and wife emotionally, he is extremelly close minded, often he acts as beign the victim when i tell him that he miss-treats us, he doesnt have a relationship with his sons because whenever we try to get close to him he treats us like if we where his employees, or simply treats us as if we where stupid, or ignorants, he has extremelly little patience regarding everything as "obvious", in fact its allways safer to stay away from him in order to have a little peace, its not that he is violent but he has this way of acting towards others that is completelly un-apropiate, insulting, inconsiderate specially with his own family. I think that he has self-esteem problems, but i cant really be sure because i barelly know him, he doesnt speak much, so he doesnt know me and i dont really know him... and he is my real father wich i have known for 24 years...
If you have any kind of advice for him, i would really appreciate it, thanks in advance.  |