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Originally Posted by ticktockclok  What are some actions a victim would take, as opposed to someone responsible for their life? |
My take:
Victims believe that other people are responsible for their happiness. Victims believe that other people have actual authority to determine their destiny. Victims believe that they are weak and powerless. Victims believe in the efficacy of complaining and dramatizing their endless sufferings at the hands of the almighty other. Ironically, in their own way, victims can even become violent in their demands on others.
Now turn that entire paragraph into its exact opposite to get a feel for what responsible people might believe.
Responsible people believe that their happiness rests entirely on their own shoulders. Responsible people believe that the final decision making authority in their life is in their own hands. Responsible people believe that they are strong and powerful. Responsible people believe in the power of optimism and focus their attention on finding ways to overcome whatever challenges they face. And by owning their power, responsible people believe in the wisdom of cooperation and the “win-win” strategy of relating to themselves and others.
The victim response to life is maladaptive. The “responsible response” is just that: an effective way of answering life.