Hey there SmartAlex, don't know why but this thread has been on my mind a lot in the last few days.
It is interesting that you come onto a self-improvement forum and start right off by saying that you don't want to follow any advice that you receive here. Accusing the people here that we accept ourselves and don't want to change anything, where I think that 99% of the people here are here because we want to improve ourselves in some way.
I get what ALG is saying, that if you want to compete in entertainment you are going to have to compete by developing a skill. For instance, I like to juggle. So I can do my juggling thing and be moderately entertaining, especially juggling to music. People always want to talk to entertainers, so I get conversations attracted to me without having to be boisterous. There are other entertainment skills that could substitute -- music, sketch art, or magic tricks to name a few. Then also, I can go hang out with other juggling nerds and be totally in my element.
But I am wondering... have you found anything yet that allows you to compete with your more rowdy friends?
The other thing I keep thinking is that you should go join that more advanced salsa club, you will probably improve much faster.
Finally, that girl you like, the architect, why not ask her on a date? Okay, she said no the first time you asked her to church, but now she's seen you a bit more, knows your friends, maybe she would feel safer now. If she says no, take Caren's advice and ask her why she doesn't like you. Maybe she will tell you that you are not funny enough, but maybe something else will come up.
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