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Velvet · 12-15-2006, 07:19 PM

I have applied Byron Katie's 4 Questions processes to my judgments and upsets so many times in the past 3 years that it's almost second-nature.

The mind never stops thinking, never stop judging, and emotional upsets still happen, but I have found that I am a more peaceful person than I was before. I credit the 4 questions, yoga, EFT, Abe-Hicks, and maybe just being alive on the planet and getting tired of letting my neuroses control my life.

Just yesterday I had an upset about something--exacerbated by a hangover and lack of sleep--and it was horrifying in the moment, but I was able to calm down and look at it for what it was. It was over in a few minutes!

In the past, this same situation/thought would have bummed me out for days, I would have had to talk it out with 10 people, cry, whatever.

I feel like I am also a much better listener, a much more compassionate friend. I can see situations from so many angles, and can understand/empathize with even the most outrageous behavior and beliefs, because my judgments and needs no longer cloud the issue. I can offer my love and compassion instead.

So, go easy on yourself--the goal is peace. Your life may not change overnight (or it might) and you may not lose all your judgments, but I think even one moment of peace can do a lot of good.

12-15-2006, 07:19 PM	#2 (permalink)
Velvet Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: New York, NY Posts: 136	judgments I have applied Byron Katie's 4 Questions processes to my judgments and upsets so many times in the past 3 years that it's almost second-nature. The mind never stops thinking, never stop judging, and emotional upsets still happen, but I have found that I am a more peaceful person than I was before. I credit the 4 questions, yoga, EFT, Abe-Hicks, and maybe just being alive on the planet and getting tired of letting my neuroses control my life. Just yesterday I had an upset about something--exacerbated by a hangover and lack of sleep--and it was horrifying in the moment, but I was able to calm down and look at it for what it was. It was over in a few minutes! In the past, this same situation/thought would have bummed me out for days, I would have had to talk it out with 10 people, cry, whatever. I feel like I am also a much better listener, a much more compassionate friend. I can see situations from so many angles, and can understand/empathize with even the most outrageous behavior and beliefs, because my judgments and needs no longer cloud the issue. I can offer my love and compassion instead. So, go easy on yourself--the goal is peace. Your life may not change overnight (or it might) and you may not lose all your judgments, but I think even one moment of peace can do a lot of good.