Oh we think alike Angela, I'd just typed my reply before reading yours!
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With the metaphor of 2 people pushing against each other and you think that if you didn't resist then you would be pushed over.
Dude - You have to find a martial arts class where you can find out how you use the other person's force to pull them over leaving you standing! You don't resist the pushing, you use it to your advantage.
That's what acceptance is about.
Which is more powerful?
Resistance:
"They were wrong to fire me, I shouldn't have lost my job."
or Acceptance:
"I've lost my job... What skills would I like to do next?"
or in your case:
Resistance:
"My friends shouldn't be so loud, funny and attractive to women.'
or Acceptance:
'My friends are loud funny and attractive to women. What can I learn from them and what can I do so that women get to know the real me?'
or Resistance:
"I have to compete against my friends for female attention."
or Acceptance
"Sometimes if feels like a competition for attention with my friends. How can I get them onside to help me find a girlfriend?'
Have you told your friends how you feel? Have you told them that you want a relationship?
How about a conversation where you tell them that you are looking for someone special and if they know anyone they think you would like to let you know.
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