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Originally Posted by marinik  Well at one point I was there where you are saying most of the people are, I made a mess out of my finances and then I met my husband and he helped me get out of that hole. Saying it is sitting and waiting to clear (the mess) by it self is not what I meant. I have done the best in everything I did not worrying about money. It -the money- came as the consequence of my giving the most I could to everybody and into everything I did. But if you are paralyzed by the fear and repeat the same old habits and actions you are going to be in the same mess all the time. |
I didn't mean to be targeting what you said about LoA & money -- I was just reminded of the thread Noise when you mentioned it. I really enjoy reading varying opinions and seeing what works for different people. Where it starts to get me is when some information is presented as The One True Fact Which Works For All, No Matter The Situation, And Nothing Else Is Necessary.
I don't know if "most" people are in a financial mess, although certainly many are. There is a lot of emphasis around here though on how if you feel great and positive and abundant all/most of the time, then financial problems will clear up as if by magic. What I want to address is the True Fact that I created the mess I'm in during the years when I felt totally great, absolutely wonderful, very happy. And obviously, irresponsible and for some reason, a compulsive under-earner. I was absolutely not paralyzed by fear. I boldly went where I knew I would succeed. It is this, as you said:
repeat the same old habits and actions you are going to be in the same mess all the time which is a main point I get from Dr. Dispenza's book. I can be joyful about life, and still repeat the same old habits and actions that keep the same mess going on and on. At some point, the habits and actions must be acknowledged and re-written.
It's like this, simply: A person creates a certain amount of debt, and now, along with the most basic of living expenses, needs to have $1,000 clear income a month to clear up the responsibilities incurred as well as survive without going on the dole. What she's been doing is writing content articles for websites, 60 or 70 hours a week, and that pays her $800 clear income a month. She loves doing this writing and she loves her friends and her family and where she lives and she has lots of books to read and woods to hike in and a couple of dogs and she is the happiest she's ever been.
But she's still making $800 a month.
What I often see around here when we get to this point in a discussion, is how a person can cut their expenses in order to live on $800 a month. Where I'm always wanting the discussion to go, is how to increase income to $1600 a month. Then we get lots of stuff about feeling abundant and not focusing on lack. But if this person doesn't do something else, change the old habits and actions, or unless some money falls out of the sky, she's going to continue creating $200 debt each and every month.