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Originally Posted by newuserint  Thank you jenlili. Ive been going to psychologist all my teen years, they have helped me but i dont get to not think negative, i always have those thinkings and its so hard to deal with them.
So i want to know what do you do to avoid them?
What kind of activities you do?
What do you do on your freetime?
That would be really helpful. |
I can tell you what I do. I don't know how helpful it will be though. I'll try to emphasize things you can try rather than what works best for me (being a middle-aged single mother with two teenaged kids.)
The one thing that makes the most difference for me is medication. Maybe I'm fortunate that antidepressants help me; for so many other people they just compound the problem. But it's worth a try if you haven't already. Still, my impression is that you're still young. Antidepressants for teenagers are even more risky than for adults because your brain is developing so quickly.
Exercise is ALWAYS recommended. It's really hard to put on running shoes when you don't feel like even getting out of bed. I know that. But see if you can do it anyway. Try to think about moving and breathing and using your muscles...get your thoughts distracted by something very concrete. The payoff is an endorphin high...don't hurt yourself, just raise your heart beat and get sweaty. You can run, you can jump, you can dance.
Speaking of dancing. Do you have any favorite music? I used to put on very loud music when I was feeling really upset. It sort of drowned out the noise of my thoughts. Sometimes, I would turn the music down, turn off the lights, maybe light a candle. The trick is to actually listen to the music: the lyrics, the melody, the drum beat or the bass line, whatever.
Even now, one thing that helps me the most is to find someone else to think about. I would call someone or write a letter asking about how that person is doing, what they're up to, what they think about something...a book, a movie, something in the news. Get your focus off yourself and onto someone else.
It's easy for me, because like I said, I have a couple kids; my kids love me like crazy though I frequently think I don't deserve it. I would never ever leave them, so thoughts of ending it all are easy to banish from my mind.
From your perspective, think about what you have to contribute and trust that maturity will give you stronger coping skills. Think of it this way. When you're very young, a week seems like a long time. When you get a little older, a week seems to pass more quickly. By the time you're my age, you find yourself saying "Wait, that was a whole year ago!?" What seems like forever in your teens, just doesn't seem so long when you're older. You'll begin to see your situation as
temporary instead of
always. So try that now. Try looking forward to a better time instead of more of the same.
Other things I do are read books, watch movies or TV, and spend far too much time on the computer playing mind-numbing solitaire games like spider and free cell and mahjong and my current favorite
Colored Lines - Games for the Brain which, for some reason, mesmerizes me!
So. Even is my suggestions don't seem apply to your life, or don't really help, at least you know someone is thinking of you and has the best intentions for your happiness. Please hang in there.