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Originally Posted by JaredR  "Accept yourself" doesn't mean you should extinguish all aspirations of becoming a better person. Accepting yourself is loving who you right now, unconditionally (the greatest type of love there is).
It is then, when you have love and compassion towards yourself, that growth begins. Once you accept where you are, you can take the next step forward. In fact, learning to love yourself when you have poor social graces seems to be the fastest track towards self-confidence and personal magnetism.
I'll use a quote from another website to help make my point (they do a very fine job, I'd say): Quote: |
Yes, you can accept (be okay with) those parts of yourself you want to change some day.
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It's a very nice sentiment, but it's logically falacious. You are saying that you shouldn't just be okay with some aspects of your personality. You love those aspects of your personality, even the ones that make your life and the lives of the people around you more difficult. If you love something, then why would you want to change it? Before you can change something, you must recognize that it must be changed. Love is blind though. (Especially the highest form of love - agape love.) It blurs your vision so deficiencies become not so important.
How can you possibly love something that you want to change? How can you want to change something that you love?