"Accept yourself" doesn't mean you should extinguish all aspirations of becoming a better person. Accepting yourself is loving who you right now, unconditionally (the greatest type of love there is).
It is then, when you have love and compassion towards yourself, that growth begins. Once you accept where you are, you can take the next step forward. In fact, learning to love yourself when you have poor social graces seems to be the fastest track towards self-confidence and personal magnetism.
I'll use a quote from another website to help make my point (they do a very fine job, I'd say):
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Self-acceptance is being loving and happy with who you are NOW. Some call it self-esteem, others self-love, but whatever you call it, you'll know when you're accepting yourself because it feels great. It's an agreement with yourself to appreciate, validate, accept and support who you are at this very moment, even those parts you’d like to eventually change. This is important...even those parts you'd eventually like to change. Yes, you can accept (be okay with) those parts of yourself you want to change some day.
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