[marklang500]

Ming, your post is ridiculous.

We are heterosexual only by culture no by nature

That's not factual. Just because you said it as if it were factual doesn't make it so.

I still wonder WHY men have sex with us women when they surely can have the best sex life has to offer with their own kind. The Greeks knew better. The Romans knew better. Why we try to deny nature?

"Nature", as you say, drives men (that want sex all the time), to find someone to have sex with.

"Nature" would further mandate that men have sex with women. Any woman. Marriage would not exist. "Consentual Rape" would be commonplace, for lack of a better term (I know it sounds like an oxymoron, but that's a pretty good description of what I'm going for in this "nature" discussion).

Then comes along civilized society. Respect for marriage casts a societal disapproval on rape and adultry. Weak men that can't get any then look for other outlets for thier sexual desires. It isn't nature that drives men to be gay, it is society. (which is why homophobia is a justifiable condition)

they surely can have the best sex life has to offer with their own kind. The Greeks knew better. The Romans knew better.

This comment seems to indicate that gay sex is definatively better than staright sex. That is not something you can say definatively. And just because the Greeks or Romans did it doesn't mean they "knew better". Plus, there is more to sex than the sex. There is procreation, which brings a joy that you can't have from gay sex. The "best sex life has to offer" includes procreation.

Your boyfriend is curious about gay sexuality, but he might not be confident enough yet to go for the whole shebang. He might no even try in his whole life but on thing is for certain: Being curious about somthing is the start of that something.

That quote is loaded..

he might not be confident enough yet to go for the whole shebang

So, if he chooses not to experiment with a gay lifestyle, he isn't confident? I wouldn't say that. If anything, it is his confidence in his heterosexuality that would be faultering if he chooses to experiment with a gay lifestyle.

one thing is for certain: Being curious about somthing is the start of that something.

That's not at all "for certain". I remember reading about the "2 girls and a cup" porn clip that's on the web. I never saw it. Nor do I want to. I was lucky enough to read an article about it by someone that very eloquantly explained how once you see something like that, it never leaves your head. But after I started reading about what it was all about, I didn't stop reading because I did want to know the details. I was curious about what these girls did that was making such an uproar. I contemplated what would drive them to such a twisted state of mind. These things that they did are not natural, yet they have somehow developed a fixation. But MY curiousity has ZERO impact on MY desire to participate in such things.

Now, if I indulge my curiousity to the point of fixation, then it becomes "the start of something". It is up to each person to actively decide what rabbit hole to go down. How easy it would be to "surf life" and let our curiosities determine our actions and directions! Real strength comes from concious choice, not impulse.

What I dislike about your post is it makes it sound as though all you have to do is walk up to a rabbit hole and you've already gone down it. That mentality takes away peoples power to control thier own lives, via intentional living. If people buy into that, then they have all the excuses they will ever need to do whatever they have an impulse to do. And no, that's not a good thing. Impulse buying, for example, is a bad thing. It indicates that the advertising and marketing methods can have an effect on YOUR decision to not buy something, overturn that decision, and then you buy it.

Don't be an impulse buyer. THAT is what REAL confidence and strength is.