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Originally Posted by desuza  I'm looking for a way to get from boring and predictable to spontaneaous and fun. I of course want to date the women I find most attractive, but that is linked with me having a great life and good circle of friends (which I want irregardless of women)
I guess what I'd like to read is maybe your story and how youve built up the life and friends you love.
p.s. im not really in the best frame of mind and have just spat out my thoughts as they came, this is the thick of how im feeling tho.
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I wish I had a quick and easy solution to tell you, but I don't. You need to become your own agent of change. Acknowledging the problems you have and establishing what you want is the first step, but now you have to go out and make those things happen for yourself. Really, you just need to start going out more. Make it a point to accept invitations for drinks, parties etc. and take things from there.
For me personally, a major turning point in my life was beginning martial arts 20+ years ago. This fully absorbed me and opened up a new world with new people in, people that I respected immensely and wanted to emulate. Though I wasn't lacking in confidence, nevertheless my confidence level shot up higher. I think finding something that truly challenges you is important to enjoying life. Most of life is not challenging, it is routine and provides no chance for insight or real introspection. Find something and someone (a mentor) who will push you in a direction you wish to go in.
Cheers,
Eisho