i think the bottom line is that looks matter to women in a different way than they do to men. usually a man sees a woman and is attracted to her, and then hopes she has a great personality to go with it. if not, he may or may not just learn to deal with it. However, there is that occasion where a man falls for a girl based on personality first, as long as she is also attractive TO HIM.
with girls it is totally the opposite.
usually a woman meets a man with a great personality, and can become romantically interested if he is physically attractive TO HER as well. if not, she may or may not just deal with it. However, there is that occasion where a woman falls for a man based on physical attraction first, as long as he has a great personality.
this is not the ABSOLUTE definite thing for all people, but i think it is for most people.
also, men are naturally attracted to "shapely" women because they instinctively look for bodies built and ready for baby making.
women are naturally attracted to strong powerful men (physically emotionally and mentally) because they instictively look for a good provider.
but i honestly think that WAY WAY too many men use their average or not-so-great looks as an excuse for why they cant get women. when actually the turn-off is their weak will or clear discomfort with themselves. too many men think that if they were better built or had different facial features they could get more women. Maybe so, but if they worked on themselves from the inside first, they could get more QUALITY women.
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