I am greatly sorry for your loss. This past year was very difficult for me as well, as I too lost a good friend. I saw him die before me after he was hit by a jet ski. I will never forget his body shaking and his eye's rolled to the back of is head, his body covered in blood, it looked like a over-the-top-action movie. I only knew Marco for a year but in that year I was able to build a connection with him, a connection in which it would normally take years and years to build. Marco was a fun loving guy. He never took life too seriously and was always out to have fun. I remember just after moving to Shanghai, my grades were not where they were supposed to be, and I would always share my worries with him, I can't do this, I won't be able to get into a good school etc. (I have since lost the habit of being negative in regards to my life accomplishments, because I no have no doubt in my mind I will be able to improve the life's of many through my writing.)
Death is a very interesting thing, and for me my friend's death actually sparked my personal development journey. Up and tell that time I pretty much went through the motions , expecting a lot while doing little, but after my friend's death a knew perspective formed. I have always been known to listen and have been known to help people through their problems and I can say honestly that nothing brings me more joy. I am in the process of starting up my own personal development site called aboundlessworld.com I currently have only the domain bought, but I am working to but that online very soon. ( I recently returned to China after a two month vacation in the United States.)
Steve, I can honestly say that your articles have changed my life tremendously and that you have inspired me to do more with my life. I know that I am only a Senior in high school, but I know from the bottom of my heart what I want to do with my life, and I have to give some credit too you, in regards too your articles making me think and fueling a desire to be a better person.
Marco's death was the first death of a friend that I had experienced in my life time and it really hit home. I remember my mother telling me that he had been pronounced dead, and feeling my body just give out beneath me. I began balling my eyes out and asking Why? Why? Why? Over time I came to a realization. That his death, had a PURPOSE. I like to relate his death to dropping a stone in a pond. He created a splash in which every one got wet, but his splash was able to bring hundreds and hundreds of people closer together. I began to love my mom a little more, my dad a little more, my brother a little more, my sister a little more, and through that I was able to see a "positive" in his death. Marco's death also taught me that you never know when it might be your "time" Just the day before me and my brother were out riding jet ski's with him, it could have just as easily been one of us.
About a week before the accident, I had a dream in which Marco got a 85 on his math test.
"Hey, Marco you got an 85 on your math test."
" Shows me his 85"
"Wow man you can predict the future"
" Can you tell me mine?"
"But what if I predict you die?, Ha don't worry you won't die any time soon."
I write this irony not to show that I could possibly have physic abilities ( Which I believe every one can have if they truly focus their intentions.)
but rather to show the ironies in every day life.
It was also interesting to know that the last song on his I-Pod was blood rush to my head- by cold play. He was hit on the head by the jet ski.
Marco's death although the most difficult thing I have ever had to deal with, taught me so much about the world and how life works. Marco's death brought the expat community so close and touched so many people's life's, but unfortunately life continues to move on. Not a day goes by with out my thinking about Marco, and how it was his death that caused me to begin my personal development journey. No matter how bad things may seem, their is always a purpose behind it, and it is up to us as human beings to find it. We must live each day to the best of our abilities, all the while not taking life to seriously because with in a split second your "world" can change. Don't take things for granted. Don't wait to utter the word's "I love you". Get up and do it now.