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Originally Posted by SMS  Therefore, I am not confident about how to carry on my life. I have no goal, very poor time management and social skill.
I do not have any friends.
I just go to work, then come back home.
I tried to make friends, but each time i tried to come closer to someone, sometimes they took advantage of my naive ness or do not come more closer.
I feel that I blew up everything.
Therefore, I also feel very depressed. |
1.Now you have a friend. A friend is someone who wants you to be fine, not someone who takes advantage of others.
2.Those who take advantage of others have a serious problem of ethics and values and probably are very selfish. You select people you get close to. I would say you need to modify your friend-search algorythm.
3.I do not think you have poor social skills. People with poor social skills use to be called "trolls" and they behave like trolls. You came here asking for sincere help and that is not typical of a troll. You need to change your conception of you to adjust it to reality. You do not lack social skills.
4.We feel depressed when we think we can't change our reality. But truth is you can. When you clean your home you are changing reality. When you post you change reality. We change the world every day.
5.A rule so people do not take advantage of you. "Trust is earned, not given away". People need to show with FACTS that they earn your trust. It is not a matter of trust everyone or trust no one. Trust is earned by others. That will save you from uncomfortable situations. How do you know if you shoudl trust? "When in doubt between words and facts, believe in facts". That will tell you who is a liar. And a final general rule: "get close to those who make you a better person and improve your life, and stay away from liars who take advantage of you at all costs".
6.You did not blew up anything. I have had to start over many times in my life. You can do it too. I am no different than you. And I was there too. Believe you me.