Although it hasn't been brought forth in this thread, there are men who genuinly want to "dominate" their female partners, and women who want their men to dominate them. (This could also be reverse, but let's keep it simple...)
And this isn't just about the man being confident (though it's important), but about him deciding for/over her. And if she fails to do so, there might be consequences (and those consequences she might enjoy on some level). Of course there are infinitely varying degrees of this so I won't get into too much details.
I know I know, you're probably going to say how obscene this is and that no sane couple would have such a relationship, and how it wouldn't be somethng you would choose to be part of. But consider that such couples most often report that they're very happy (yes, both parties), much more so than they have been in a more "equal" relationship. Not saying that you would be happy in such a relationship, but it works for them.
And if you would argue that it isn't equal, then yeah, it isn't on the superficial level. But it seems that it is pretty equal on the emotional level; both parties enjoy the symbiosis.
And if you think that both the parties must have some kind of deficiet because they are happier in such a relationship, then you must know that for example the women might play a more dominant role in another part of her life, for example her job. Both people might be able to be a very balanced person and masculine or feminine as need be, it's just that in the relationship, it's this that creates the more spark for them. So it usually isn't about the woman or man needing to be dominant or be dominated, but that it's fun. Yeah, not everything needs to be initiated by the primary motivator of it being practical. Lighten up! (am i talking to myself at this point..?)
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