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Originally Posted by NeedaNewStart  I would be trusting I wouldnt flip out the second he didnt answer the phone. I wouldnt be reading into everything he said or thinking he was always out to hurt me. I wouldnt care if he went out with friends because I would trust him. I would be content and not worrying about him leaving me. I would be confident, secure, and loving.
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Perhaps you can't be confident, secure, and loving without being able to be the opposite. By denying yourself the ability to be unconfident, insecure, and hateful you may be denying yourself their opposites as well. All ideas come as a package, always with at least two parts. If you deny yourself hate, you deny love. If you deny yourself sadness, you deny happiness. I'm not saying that you have to feel these things, but you have to be
able to allow yourself to, for without one you lose both. You feel jealous, but maybe you're fighting it trying to convince yourself that it isn't there, or that it shouldn't be there and you NEED to get rid of it. But your jealousy just proves your capacity for its opposite (not sure exactly what it would be). If you're going to divide the world into right and wrong, you will always need wrong to prove that there is right. Once you allow yourself both, then you will have a choice. Your faults are as worthy of love as the rest of you, and you can stop hating yourself for them if you want.