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Associate · 08-17-2008, 03:20 AM

You did'nt just explain how you felt, you painted the picture, thank you for giving us a brief glimpse of your life. The deep self reflection you describe is quite evident however self reflection can be biased on what we are feeling at the time of reflecting, for example if one is feeling low in mood and is spending time alone, their thoughts are more likely to be negatively influenced so getting another perspective to bounce ideas off is helpfull, and im glad youve taken a step towards this, by posting your feelings.

youve mentioned many fundamental things that have been missing from your life such as a sense of belonging, care and attention from close ones and it seems that one of the things that has sufffered due to this is your self esteem.

overall you seem to feel down, low in confidence, isolated and deceived by humantity, which makes you feel angry and frustrated and all of these feelings reinforce your negative beliefs of worthlessness. this is too much weight for anyone to carry and so you experience this as quite overwhelming and seem to make yo feel suicidal.

I am happy to see that you have taken the steps towards doing something about your situation by trying to understand why you feel the way you do, but giving yourself a goal of two years to determine your life tells me you have high expectations of a person who has already gone through so much. in your post you state that you have asked yourself questions such as "Why didn't I take a more proactive approach to life? and Why didn't I do better in school?" and this only made you feel jeolous and regretfull and shows that you have high expectations of yourself. problem is if expectations are not met, dissapontment sets in.

im wondering if you have accessed any help?, have you spoken to your G.P? there is alot of confidential help out there problem is you have to ask for it. the qustions you have within yourself can be explored and put to rest, negative beliefs and trigger points that make you feel the way you do can be idntified to help you avoid them.

you have mentioned that when you are overwhelmed you can go into depression again, if you learn the skills to cope, no one can take them away from you, so chances of you feeling depressed can be greatly reduced.

feeling anxious and depressed stops us functioning as normal. it is like being constatly bullied. we have to fight this bully, not give into it, you have began the fight. giving up should never be an option!!

08-17-2008, 03:20 AM	#6 (permalink)
Associate Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 1	Hi Project X You did'nt just explain how you felt, you painted the picture, thank you for giving us a brief glimpse of your life. The deep self reflection you describe is quite evident however self reflection can be biased on what we are feeling at the time of reflecting, for example if one is feeling low in mood and is spending time alone, their thoughts are more likely to be negatively influenced so getting another perspective to bounce ideas off is helpfull, and im glad youve taken a step towards this, by posting your feelings. youve mentioned many fundamental things that have been missing from your life such as a sense of belonging, care and attention from close ones and it seems that one of the things that has sufffered due to this is your self esteem. overall you seem to feel down, low in confidence, isolated and deceived by humantity, which makes you feel angry and frustrated and all of these feelings reinforce your negative beliefs of worthlessness. this is too much weight for anyone to carry and so you experience this as quite overwhelming and seem to make yo feel suicidal. I am happy to see that you have taken the steps towards doing something about your situation by trying to understand why you feel the way you do, but giving yourself a goal of two years to determine your life tells me you have high expectations of a person who has already gone through so much. in your post you state that you have asked yourself questions such as "Why didn't I take a more proactive approach to life? and Why didn't I do better in school?" and this only made you feel jeolous and regretfull and shows that you have high expectations of yourself. problem is if expectations are not met, dissapontment sets in. im wondering if you have accessed any help?, have you spoken to your G.P? there is alot of confidential help out there problem is you have to ask for it. the qustions you have within yourself can be explored and put to rest, negative beliefs and trigger points that make you feel the way you do can be idntified to help you avoid them. you have mentioned that when you are overwhelmed you can go into depression again, if you learn the skills to cope, no one can take them away from you, so chances of you feeling depressed can be greatly reduced. feeling anxious and depressed stops us functioning as normal. it is like being constatly bullied. we have to fight this bully, not give into it, you have began the fight. giving up should never be an option!!