It's kinda creepy when guys want to bed you right away like that. If you're looking for a relationship, slow down with the sex. Find a girl you can be friends with first, then start going for the physical stuff after you've established some compatability (but don't wait too long, there's a fine line). Always let her set the pace and back off if she seems uncomfortable. Don't look for girlfriends in the clubs, go to where the nice girls are. Find an activity you enjoy with an insane F:M ratio -- cooking class, psychology class, yoga, and church choir come to mind.
As for affirmations, I understand you should leave the "I want" out of it, as wanting is a state of not having and therefore pushing away. Instead affirm "I am a wonderful boyfriend" and do visualization of the relationship you desire.
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