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seo1 · 08-15-2008, 06:56 AM

I'm relatively physically attractive but it seems the girls I have a physical connection with don't have much going on mentally. You know the typical party girls.

Then whenever I get to know a girl an attraction starts to develop even if I don't want it to. Even if it's the worst possible situation it will start to happen. This has happened more than once and I can see the pattern repeating. Even if I'm not attracted to them physically something has already been set in motion. A relationship with no physical attraction can't be successful. Girls are naturally more intuitive and deeper thinkers than the general population of guys and that's why I think I start to develop these friendships. I value these type of relationships and I don't want to get rid of them completely though. I think it gives a broader perspective of understanding. They're usually at least 5 yrs older than me too.

Basically the question is: Has anyone had trouble with their mental/emotional aspect overriding the physical aspect in terms of developing a relationship? How do you control this? Whenever I want something to develop with a girl the mental pieces aren't there and whenever I don't intend for it something inevitably ends up happening. Has anyone had a similar experience? Maybe I might be able to gain some insight into this problem before I make the mistake again.

08-15-2008, 06:56 AM	#17 (permalink)
seo1 Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 120	probably a common problem for guys interested in PD I'm relatively physically attractive but it seems the girls I have a physical connection with don't have much going on mentally. You know the typical party girls. Then whenever I get to know a girl an attraction starts to develop even if I don't want it to. Even if it's the worst possible situation it will start to happen. This has happened more than once and I can see the pattern repeating. Even if I'm not attracted to them physically something has already been set in motion. A relationship with no physical attraction can't be successful. Girls are naturally more intuitive and deeper thinkers than the general population of guys and that's why I think I start to develop these friendships. I value these type of relationships and I don't want to get rid of them completely though. I think it gives a broader perspective of understanding. They're usually at least 5 yrs older than me too. Basically the question is: Has anyone had trouble with their mental/emotional aspect overriding the physical aspect in terms of developing a relationship? How do you control this? Whenever I want something to develop with a girl the mental pieces aren't there and whenever I don't intend for it something inevitably ends up happening. Has anyone had a similar experience? Maybe I might be able to gain some insight into this problem before I make the mistake again.