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Originally Posted by Dannyboy1  Let's put it this way, if two guys came up and had all the wonderful qualities you look for in a partner and one of them was short, bald, and weighed 300 pounds, who would you choose? |
I would choose the one that touches my heart.
Ive had a bald partner. Ive had an overweight partner. Ive had a partner that was 16 years older than me. None of these things diminished in any way the qualities that attracted me to them (and no, it was not money, although I have had a relationship that was motivated only by money as well). In most cases the emotional/intellectual qualities I seek simply exclude not taking good care of oneself, but if a person had them and at the same time was short, bald, and weighed 300 pounds, I know I would not care that much, because Ive tried it and I know I dont.
And you also imply that if SOME women prioritise their partner's looks then ALL women do. Which is faulty logic and simply not true.
My attitude towards pretty boys is simple: they are nice as eye candy. They are nice for the sort of relationship where you want it to be fast, pleasant and over with. If I wanted a guy for one night entertainment, the pretty face would be where I would start, because there I want sensual pleasure, and nothing more. But when it comes to true relationship, the person I fall in love with needs to touch my heart. And to really get there, they need so much more than just looks. And sadly for a lot of men their looks and their wallet really come in the way of them being authentic, because they if they are beautiful and/or rich, they tend to identify with these two qualities way too much for my liking. That said, I have met also wonderful men who are beautiful and/or rich and still have beautiful souls, but they are somewhat of a minority in my experience.
But then again, thats just me