Talk to him on his own turf and on his own terms. If he's comfortable with the situation, he'll be less likely to get defensive. Also introduce the topic gently and be clear that you're not trying to cast blame, you're only hoping to explain your side of the issue. If you start to see him put his shields up during the conversation, reiterate that you're not blaming him for anything.
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