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Originally Posted by NeedaNewStart  Sad thing is we have done this and it doesnt seem to be working, it seems like its making it worse and making him think Im more needy. Today he said he doesnt think that I want to change for me, that I am only changing because I think he is going to leave. I tried explaining that, that is not the full truth that yes losing him is the present insecurity, but I hate feeling sick to my stomach when he doesnt answer or out with his friends. I just dont know how to change. I wish it was as easy as not picking up the phone or wanting to call every two mins. |
Hmm, I would suggest giving serious thought as to whether or not you should stay together, and maybe discuss it with him. You're terrified of losing him, and until you accept the possibility that you will you're going to be franticly jealous. You might lose him. You might even give him up. You may have to make the decision that you are not ready for the level of involvement that you are attempting, and that it's time to part ways for a while. I'm not going to suggest what course of action you should take, but it's obvious that something has to change because you are unhappy with the way you are. Regardless, you are going to lose him eventually anyways. He may die, divorce, or break off the marriage and go to live in Tibet. A relationship should be a positive thing, and the fact that it's not shows that change needs to be considered, and you may have to do something drastic. Or maybe not. Your life, your choice.