I have a problem similar to yours, but viceversa, i speak like that to my father. He has a very deep psicological problem of cronic anger, he has allways mistreated his family and himself, so whenever i try to speak to him about this problem he says that i am attacking him and gets defencive, but i dont try to make him feel bad, its just that i think that he has had this problem for too long time that he needs to end it soon as posible, otherwise he would keep hurting everyone around him, specially the ones who love him, and we are so tired of it, and he seems too...
The thing is that we tell this kind of things because we want a change for the good of everyone, and we may not know exactly how to guide you, but we do it in the only way we can think of, so, i think you should try to think and consider his concerns, see if he may be right or not, i wish my father would do that, but he doesnt want to even consider it, he is just too defencive, and things wont change without his effort to change those problems that he has on his personality, so we all keep suffering as long as he has this attitude...
Anyway, i think that you have allready put a huge effort on changing, you just have to keep it up, and you are not crazy for doing that, i think that it shows the oposite, just keep it up. Good luck.
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