If I were to send such a contract to my father, he would think that I was completely crazy. Lol, I almost don't even want to imagine his reaction, but I'm sure it would be one of utter disbelief.
The thing with my father is that there are two issues with him. First of all, he's the dominant type of guy and he loses his temper sometimes. That issue has nothing to with me. And he's fully aware of it, though I've never seen him make a real effort to work on it.
The second issue is that there is a very deep part of his brain that's contempful of weakness in other people. And he sees weakness in me, largely because of I've struggled academically in college. When I'm away from home, he's relatively understanding and supportive. But at home, the contempt comes through and he acts like a total d**k to me sometimes. Even the rest of my family sides with me on that.
But that's the issue that he's either unaware of, or refuses to think about. His opinion on the problems between us is this: "I've done a TON of stuff for you in bringing you up, and while I may not always be the best dad, as long as you're financially dependent on me, you better put up with me and not talk back."
So that's why I don't think he would like such a letter from me. Hopefully you get a positive response. Let us know how things go (assuming it doesn't get too personal, which it probably will...)  |