Velvet, I think you are bang on on all three counts. I've doing everything on my own, but i'm also seeing a counsellor (in Emotional Release Counselling - ERC) for depression - that stemmed from previous relationships.
However, she is not doing The Work/EFT/etc with me, ERC is very similar to The Work but goes deeper. She is awesome in that she's identifying exactly what you said - I've had these feelings of abandonment and helplessness all the way back to my early childhood as that was how my parents punished me when I did wrong - they abandoned and withdrew (not abusively but emotionally - they would still feed me and stuff, but it was just mechanical).
Plus hurts from previous relationships. So that's brilliant, thanks for that. I think I will try The Work on deeper issues once I have time. It is very time consuming!
As for my turnaround statements, I just turn it around. I hurt her becomes I hurt myself, she hurt me, she hurt herself. Is there a different way of doing it?
Hazel, I'm heading off overseas in a couple of days - be back mid - Jan. I'll definitely look you up if I am still hung up over her then.
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