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David Beard · 08-12-2008, 04:36 AM

Yes, we all benefit from an integrated society, relying on each others' contribution to the whole (special knowledge, gifts, talents, etc).

My viewpoint isn't that the life coaching process is one of abandonment ('leaving someone to barrel through life under the illusion of self power'), but to facilitate the awakening in another, that they have the ability to choose how they will deal with their issues / problems and to seek out solutions.

There is nothing to prevent a client from asking their coach: What did they do in a similar situation? But were the coach to just offer a solution from their own autobiography, because they think they understand where the client's at, can be more harmfull than intended, (even with the best intentions).

The client wish to their coach is: 'don't let your truth become my limitation.'

The problem with so many P.D. solutions is that they are promulgated as universally applicable because they worked for the author, at a particular stage in their journey. We then think our methods may be 'just the thing' for our client and, as I say, wind up doing more harm than good.

The best analogy I can think of is the story of the nun who fell down a well and was trapped for three days, during which time she attained enlightenment. After she was rescued, she then spent the rest of her life shoving people down wells.

Bearing in mind, we're only talking about pure Life Coaching here. Not internet coaching, not dietary coaching, sports, house or car building coaching. No one can profess a specialised knowledge in someone else's life, and are delusional if they try.

I certainly agree no person is an island. We all rely on the special knowledge of others to have houses built, etc and enjoy the legacy left to us for our survival. My message is, that when it comes to making decisions about our own life issues, the help we are best served by is someone who will support us while we discover our own truth and not impose theirs.

ie: the danger of asking others to resolve your own 'life' issues was best stated in the Life of Brian: "Of course he's the messiah. I should know, I've followed enough of them!".

I would never suggest a person try to do life without relying on others. That'd just be foolish. However, self-power, is the most powerful 'illusion' to embrace. And the Life Coaching process is the fastest way to come to that illusion. In my opinion.

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David Beard Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Brisbane Australia Posts: 6	Yes, we all benefit from an integrated society, relying on each others' contribution to the whole (special knowledge, gifts, talents, etc). My viewpoint isn't that the life coaching process is one of abandonment ('leaving someone to barrel through life under the illusion of self power'), but to facilitate the awakening in another, that they have the ability to choose how they will deal with their issues / problems and to seek out solutions. There is nothing to prevent a client from asking their coach: What did they do in a similar situation? But were the coach to just offer a solution from their own autobiography, because they think they understand where the client's at, can be more harmfull than intended, (even with the best intentions). The client wish to their coach is: 'don't let your truth become my limitation.' The problem with so many P.D. solutions is that they are promulgated as universally applicable because they worked for the author, at a particular stage in their journey. We then think our methods may be 'just the thing' for our client and, as I say, wind up doing more harm than good. The best analogy I can think of is the story of the nun who fell down a well and was trapped for three days, during which time she attained enlightenment. After she was rescued, she then spent the rest of her life shoving people down wells. Bearing in mind, we're only talking about pure Life Coaching here. Not internet coaching, not dietary coaching, sports, house or car building coaching. No one can profess a specialised knowledge in someone else's life, and are delusional if they try. I certainly agree no person is an island. We all rely on the special knowledge of others to have houses built, etc and enjoy the legacy left to us for our survival. My message is, that when it comes to making decisions about our own life issues, the help we are best served by is someone who will support us while we discover our own truth and not impose theirs. ie: the danger of asking others to resolve your own 'life' issues was best stated in the Life of Brian: "Of course he's the messiah. I should know, I've followed enough of them!". I would never suggest a person try to do life without relying on others. That'd just be foolish. However, self-power, is the most powerful 'illusion' to embrace. And the Life Coaching process is the fastest way to come to that illusion. In my opinion. Last edited by David Beard; 08-12-2008 at 04:52 AM.