To me the most important question is:
How could you make your relationship to transition from "holding things together and glued" to "growing and developing and improving ourselves thanks to each other"?
This is a question you must answer.
As I see it now there is a problem of compatibility of life plans. Or perhaps he is addicted to his hobby.
If it is addiction the problem is somewhere else, an inner pain, a past experience during early childhood.
If life plan is the problem, then there is a problem that is not related to love. But it is serious and needs to be discussed.
Last edited by ar81; 08-11-2008 at 01:10 PM.