I don't think there is a one size fits all plan.
It depends at what level of awareness/conciousness you are at.
At the lowest levels, you go out and find sex.
At the highest levels, you realise that there is no real end to a relationship, just a change. You cannot undo what has been done.
For most of us, we fall somewhere in between. I think our toughest challenge is not to fall to a lower level than the one we are currently at. Act with self love, with win-win as the outcome.
For me, pizza may mean breaking rules with myself about not eating meat, not eating refined flour bread, etc. For you it might be perfectly fine. For me analysis is normal, it happens regardless, but it will reach an equilibrium where it stops and I can let other thoughts take over. For Alice some level of "post break-up" analysis might be beyond her level of awareness, and a pointless waste of energy, because she has much deeper issues and analysis is based on false assumptions and will cause more long term harm than good.
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