Originally Posted by Angela
Illuster, welcome to the forums, and I hope you have a wonderful time here!
I started to write a long ol' answer to your posts, but I realized you'd probably feel like I was bludgeoning you and I should probably wait till you get used to me.
Basically it boils down to this: if you want your marriage to be a loving, long-term, mutually beneficial relationship (LLTMBR), filled with joy, power, and abundance, you would be wise to take 100% responsibility and let go of thinking all these issues are your husband's.
Hi Illuster, I can really relate to what you are going through.Angelas advice is good. What I found was, I had to dig deep into myself to find the real me, this has given me confidence in myself,and the realisation of how much I love my husband warts and all.I try to think that a relationship is to bring out the best in each other, in a loving way, to be gentle and not to push and demand.Good luck Jude.
What do you think you are being and doing in this relationship that is having him be the way he is being?