I can't suggest much now, but I think it'd be very helpful to assure him that you still love him, even while you're frustrated.
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Originally Posted by illuster  He does let me into "his world" and into his head. But there are certain places he can't go himself so how can he let me into those...
Like he tells me he has a very dark side and he would hurt me (emotionally) if he lets that out. He’s told me a storie from a past relationship that still haunts him. He was a lot younger then and I think he has learned from the experience. Only he can’t come to terms with it or forgive himself for not reacting right.
I’m not that other girl so I can’t help him there by saying I forgive him...
I can’t believe we can be whole if we don’t accept or at least acknowledge our “dark side”... He’s afraid of it, as if he’s a monster. Only he’s the kindest man I know... |
That sounds
ridiculously similar to me. I've never had a deep relationship for that very reason; I fear doing whatever your husband did. So I've never dated, or even had a deep friendship.
I
am working on that with one of the moderators, Angela, though.
I haven't had any breakthroughs yet, so I'm sorry I can't help very much. But there a lot of insightful members here who'll be able to give you help. And they'll be helping me, too.
I wish you the very best of luck.