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Old 08-09-2008, 06:16 PM   #42 (permalink)
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Default People who aren't happy with the $500+ price tag, this post's for you

To those who are disappointed about Steve not offering cheaper consulting, I think you have to ask yourself: will I benefit more by personal growth, or more from what Steve has to offer?

And I mean that in a very literal sense.

We could all use some help from Steve, but how many of us would really use what he specifically has to offer as opposed to just needing a solution for some issue in our life?

There's also the "guru vision" issue at play. To explain, recently I learned how ineffective it can be when you relate to someone if you percieve them to be more glorious than they really are. Essentially it puts them on a pedestal, and you interact more with your thoughts about this person instead of the person themselves, and when you work closely together, eventually you begin to see cracks, or worse then that, your relationship--that was based on an inaccurate model of who you thought this person was--begins to not work out (which can be non-ideal if you're doing a project with this person).

Regardless of how masterful someone is in a particular area, if you interact with the pedestal version of them rather than the actual version of them, they relationship will probably not work out very well in one way or another (it's hard to say how specifically it'd manifest, but the underlying phenomenon will play out one way or another eventually).

Most of us probably think so highly of Steve that our interaction would be tainted because we'd be interacting with the thought of "darn Steve's awesome" instead of the useful, practical "Steve the person." However counter-intuitive it may seem, people who see Steve more as a resource, (including those with less familiarity with Steve) rather than as some sort of super-1337 guru, will probably get more out of a working relationship with Steve.

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If I turned these questions on myself I'd have to admit that no, I wouldn't be the kind of person who'd benefit from Steve--at least, not yet.

I'd largely resist a lot of what he has to say, not because I don't believe him, but because I want to discover my own approaches, etc (note: I already do this with his writing, heh). This doesn't mean Steve isn't useful to me, though. What it does mean is that he's more "selectively useful" and I'd benefit from being exposed to his ideas and being able to selectively pick and choose from them instead of having Steve being with me saying, "ok, X is the most effective route; I highly advise you do that" or "here is something that's worked for me; give it a try."

That's generalising things a bit, but I imagine those who Steve will be most interested in working with are those who will readily apply what Steve says and not be too interested in exploring the territory themselves; people who want results since they already have the self-expression area covered so they're mainly looking to optimise results, not creatively express (since they're already doing that).
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