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Parthon · 08-07-2008, 08:25 PM

Wow, there's quiet a few undercurrents going on here. Very very interesting.

Now the first thing is: LifeWork: you aren't fully in control of who you give your energy too. It would be nice to forgive those people, but you won't be able to until you stop giving them your energy, and in order to do that you have to stop giving them control. Now like you say, they aren't the best people around

but that's perfectly okay, and there's nothing wrong with that. They are allowed to do as they see fit, whatever that may be. They are their own person and they are just as responsible as you or anyone else. There's nothing wrong with them and they are 100% okay.

So how does that fly? I don't say this as the truth, but just a way to see the situation to get some of your power back. These people will continue living this way, and it doesn't matter to them what you do really, but you are still giving them your control and your energy. Why? Because there is a limiting belief holding you back. I don't know what it is, but it is something related to being hedonistic or slacking off or even relaxing. There's some belief around enjoying yourself and having fun that you are struggling with. I'm sensing perhaps that you might not think you deserve to enjoy your accomplishments. Is this true or am I way off?

Lastly, you don't need to avoid or participate with these people for any reason and they aren't important, but coming to terms with who they are for you and finding peace within yourself is important. Both they and you are not the problem, you are all fine just how you are right now, but there are barriers and walls keeping you away from who you really are. Those walls are the problem and need to come down.

08-07-2008, 08:25 PM	#10 (permalink)
Parthon Moderator Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Perth, Australia Posts: 1,356	Wow, there's quiet a few undercurrents going on here. Very very interesting. Now the first thing is: LifeWork: you aren't fully in control of who you give your energy too. It would be nice to forgive those people, but you won't be able to until you stop giving them your energy, and in order to do that you have to stop giving them control. Now like you say, they aren't the best people around but that's perfectly okay, and there's nothing wrong with that. They are allowed to do as they see fit, whatever that may be. They are their own person and they are just as responsible as you or anyone else. There's nothing wrong with them and they are 100% okay. So how does that fly? I don't say this as the truth, but just a way to see the situation to get some of your power back. These people will continue living this way, and it doesn't matter to them what you do really, but you are still giving them your control and your energy. Why? Because there is a limiting belief holding you back. I don't know what it is, but it is something related to being hedonistic or slacking off or even relaxing. There's some belief around enjoying yourself and having fun that you are struggling with. I'm sensing perhaps that you might not think you deserve to enjoy your accomplishments. Is this true or am I way off? Lastly, you don't need to avoid or participate with these people for any reason and they aren't important, but coming to terms with who they are for you and finding peace within yourself is important. Both they and you are not the problem, you are all fine just how you are right now, but there are barriers and walls keeping you away from who you really are. Those walls are the problem and need to come down.