There is NO NEED to feel guilty for leaving a person. Just know that the heart can not feel pain, only our egos resistance to what is happening feel pain.
People break up because they are no longer compatible, that's it. Your interests, desires, goals whatever change and people grow apart. As a result you break up. Feelings get hurt and people feel bitter.
It seems like you are falling into sympathy with his situation and feeling guilty as a result. Remind yourself that EVERYONE is responsible for their own lives. He is who he is because of the choices he has made. He might of gotten angrier or upset because of the breakup but that was his choice.
You didn't ditch him, he made the choice to end the relationship. You might of been the one to officially call it quits but it was a mutual decision. He decided to act like an idiot which forced you to end it. If he had made the choice not to be a jacka** then you probably would have been together now. But he didn't.
Your decision didn't cause these things. His choices did. If it was cause (you breaking up) and effect (his anger) then every break up would be exactly the same. For example, if you were dating me and we would break up I would be completely fine with it. I would say thanks for the time we spent and sincerely wish you the best of luck. No bitterness. No anger. No harsh feelings.
It's your guilt and sympathy issues that are causing you to still talk to him now. Accept the fact that HE CHOSE to be this way and still can't act like an adult.
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