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Old 12-13-2006, 12:34 PM   #1 (permalink)
TheFlyingMan
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Default Byron Katie's The Work, anyone tried it?

Has anyone tried it? It's free for use and download at www.thework.com.

Does it work for you? It's based on writing down your judgement of someone that you hate, or a stressful belief, and questioning it through 4 questions. Then turning the statement around. You meditate on the process, so that things happen on a deeper level, not on an intellectual level.

I've been using it to try and get over my ex. It seems to work, but in a strange way. For example, there is a multitude of feelings here that are disturbing me.

One. I hurt her.

When I did that through The Work, I stopped thinking of her in that way, and reliving experiences where I hurt her.

I started reliving experiences where she hurt me. (Not on purpose, just the thoughts that intrude as you carry on your daily life).

So I did
Two. She hurt me.

And I started reliving all the happy experiences we had.

So I did
Three. I miss her.

And then I was fine. But then all the beginning stuff came back - the parts where she hurt me. I seem to get this pattern with every thing I try, including EFT. It all works for a couple of days, and then after a while it all comes back.

Strangely, the more "traditional" methods - a rebound girl seems to work better....
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