I think the person I was when I wrote the first post, and even the update is different from the person I am now. I suppose one the reasons I opened this thread was to help get my thoughts out in the open, get some feedback and sanity checks.
Yes. Making my own decisions is much more satisfying. My values may not be exactly the same as they were yesterday, but I consider this evolving to a person who is more true to himself, than living with values that were put there by other people and by my own insecurities - and whether the new values are modern or traditional - at least they are now truly mine.
I believe I could find a life partner from anywhere. The universe will provide me through it's own means, and not necessarily the way I'd imagine it. The fact that I believe it's just unlikely (probability is less) that my folks would manage to find someone who is compatible with me to my satisfaction due to thier prefrences not overlapping with mine - does not completely rule out the possibility that they might strike gold.
What do I mean by truly compatible - I mean someone with whom I connect completely, even if our tastes in somethings or even some of our values are different - and more.
Yes, thought processes tend to be circular and repititive unless you break through unspeakable and possible overlooked fears and insecurities.
And yes, it is unhealthy to win the approval of that friend i referred to - considering she is the exact opposite of what you described - she's not so focussed on values and morals as she is on materialistic and carnal pleasures and living a rather unexaminded life.
Another dear friend suggested a similar approval model to what you did - except she ommitted the parental approval. I'm sure she would agree with you though that parents are important - to the extent that I'm willing to follow thier tradition and values.
Thank you for all the help you have given me. I am sincerely grateful to you all.