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Originally Posted by Horace  In human psychology, a deep prolonged eye contact makes people unconfortable because it is interpreted as a sign of defiance (especially between men, but you will make a woman to feel insecure as well if you hold an eye contact more than 7 secs if I recall correctly). Also, women eye contacts are clearly an invitation to approach sent to the males, so I'd avoid it if I were a girl (they do it naturally anyway). It is hard wired in our brains, so I'd be careful with your exercise, you never know who you're looking at  |
That's why it's easier to do it on a busy street, because you can always walk away and vanish if you happen to look at a psycho or something
. If a man approaches you because you looked at him just say I was just looking at you that's all. It's part of stopping to care about what other people think - "I don't care if you thought I invited you to approach". You must get past that fear.
I don't think the fear is entirely hard-wired, you have to get through a lot of fears that have been placed on top of that (like parents telling you not to stare at people).
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I happen to think the reframe I posted above is extremely effective.
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Sometimes reframes make you more comfortable because you start thinking differently about what other people think. But still you are thinking what they think about. You say "It's not my business what they think", in that moment you are thinking about what they are thinking!