[Squid]

I discovered my "straight" boyfriend responding to personal ads in the men seeking men section of Craigslist a few years ago.

It was pretty devastating and confusing. But the hardest part about the entire experience wasn't the fact that he had some attraction to men, it was that he hid it from me and did it behind my back. I felt disrespected and felt that he was putting my physical health at risk by seeking sex outside our relationship without my consent. The only reason that I gave him a second chance was that he did not actually physically cheat on me.


Building back trust once it has been broken is probably the hardest thing I have ever had to do. Part of me still feels like no matter how good he treats me now he will still be "that guy" that was capable of infidelity and that makes him inferior in my eyes.

If you were to do that without informing your girlfriend keep in mind that if she discovered the tryst your actions would permanently affect her emotional health and every future relationship that she might be in.