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Originally Posted by Mato Kinze  Who has the problem with this? You or them? |
I don't have a problem at all. But you see, there's people out there that like to intimidate small guys like me. You understand how people are afraid of failure. When I interact calmly with these types of people it pisses them off because I'm not giving them their desired reaction.
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Originally Posted by Mato Kinze All true leaders do so with action, not words. Action, especially right action, speaks to people's souls, not their minds. As for being a humble leader, again, all the True leaders are, because to be a leader is to be in total service to those you lead. It is to be completely without regard for self and one's own needs or Ego. |
That's the point of this whole post. Most of what I have been observing is the synchronicity between body language and conversation. Also, I work in customer service. Spontaneous action allows me to lead the interaction but I am providing them with a service, which means that the customer's needs are put before my own. Actually, you could picture my current job at Returns and Exchanges at IKEA as a sort of servitude towards the customer. There have been so many times where a customer has blatantly told me how to perform my job, like I'm completely subjected to their will. However, my actions would say otherwise.
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Originally Posted by Mato Kinze Being a warrior means being impeccable. When you do what you were meant to do, everyone benefits. If you were meant to be a leader then lead. If you TRY to be a leader and piss people off, then chances are you shouldn't try. If you piss people off simply by being who you are, then you need to be around different people. |
Again, this is what this post is about. When I act spontaneously, doing what I was meant to do, everyone benefits. Those angry customers who would have normally blown up realize that they can't get a rise out of me, and I direct the situation in a way that leaves both parties satisfied. And maybe I should have been more clear. It's not people that I know that get pissed at me. It's those customers that believe that they're always right and that they always have to have their way, no matter what.
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Originally Posted by Mato Kinze This is not a difficult issue. You're making it difficult with your head. Follow your heart and it will lead you truly. |
Well then what would you do in my situation? Your heart tells you to be humble, but your actions say otherwise. Think mind synchronized with the body, proactively interacting in a social situation. When I just let go there have been chains of synchronicity that suggest that I am a leader, the best, a man, mature, first, etc. Now keep in mind that there have been synchronizations with the opposite end of the spectrum much more frequently. It's gotten to the point where it doesn't matter to me anymore, because I accept the truth. I accept my failures and my shortcomings, and I have already moved past them. Now I recognize those situations where I could act through the ego-centered side of the spectrum, I consciously behave in a way that suggests humility, and the most simple way I can put it is that I let other people lead. Otherwise, it turns into a competition of who's better when the other person has an inflated ego.
It's those very subtle things that give people such a burst of energy, and I love that. I love making people feel good about themselves, though it requires that I check my own actions. Do you know how much of an ego boost males receive when they are recognized as 'men'? It's enormous.
I guess it would have made more sense if I used the word leader instead of man in the title, but it doesn't have the same connotation to me. Actually, it encompasses being a leader, but means so much more. And I don't necessarily mean being a leader among people, but being able to lead your own life courageously.
The more I think about it, the more I see that I am now able to distinguish between those situations where my ego can potentially get the best of me, and when I am able act independent of it. I sort of see it now as a step before being able to act independently of the ego entirely, maybe like breaking free from the wheel of life.